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Graham Landi's avatar

I can confirm from past experience that you’re not a good listener but, fortunately, much of what you have to say is interesting, insightful, hilarious, outrageous, or all four.

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Virginia's avatar

Pitch to nyt/wapo STAT

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Beth Lisogorsky's avatar

"I tell him girlfriend and boyfriend are probably the result of gen x not being parented. And dad is a result of parents spending more time with kids.

My son tells me we don't have to turn everything into me giving a lesson."

Story of my life. Also, one can't be a good listener if we're always thinking about the lesson we're trying to teach. Only 2.5% of the world's population can multi-task or more simply ~98% of the population cannot do more than 1 thing at a time. This is how I know that if I'm coming up with a solution shortly after my kid says something (or interrupting cow mode in the middle), I haven't properly listened.

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Penelope Trunk's avatar

The interrupting cow reference is so funny.

I try to tell myself over and over that the world needs listeners. The world does not need me to tell them everything I know. But it's not just conversations - it's everywhere - even editing my posts it's hard for me to not say everything I in my head that is interesting to me.

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Beth Lisogorsky's avatar

As my son would say in response, “facts”

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Woomban's avatar

The first thing I was taught on my Coaching diploma was that listening is the core skill of a good coach. As a big talker, fascinated with my own ideas and super-fast mins I realised I didn't have this quality and just because I am good at knowing what work suits people from interviewing them (20 years as a career coach and interview trainer) I can't truly understand what people need from coaching because my ND means I'm not able to listen closely as I get bored so I do everyone a favour by not trying to coach them.

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